Harmonizing, neither one has given anything up

The difference between compromising and harmonizing, in relationships

When we harmonize we are balancing the scales of respect with a win-win for both sides
While compromising often leads us to feel as though we are giving something up, especially in settlement of a dispute or to keep the peace or to make someone pleased or to avoid confrontation

The fact is, to compromise it is to be “halfway happy” especially when the ego feels it has been challenged or weakened to give something up to make someone else happy

Compromising is fine in small doses, about less important things. it only becomes a problem when it is forced due to stereotype role mindset

Harmonizing comes from our soul

We have all been brought up with the gender stereotype roles in society as accepted judgment which is now outdated and unreasonable

Gender roles around the world were dictated by the environment and the needs of a society

These exaggerated gender stereotypes can today make relationships between people difficult, competitive and a struggle to find a balance if it is taken in a negative way or misunderstood

The evolved person will understand and respect that either gender has their personal likes and dislikes of perceived gender role

Although it shouldn't be an unrealistic attempt to eliminate either gender.
Gender of a person reflects the masculine or feminine attributes of an individual, many individuals now regard themselves free to a choice and based on their personal interest of how they want to define their role
There is no constraint with respect to the societal obligations, and the gender roles are flexible resulting in reduction of gap in gender roles.
The bottom line is gender roles in society are no longer a monopoly or an obligation

In order to sustain a better living, a person's free will should be the sole determinant of his or her role in a relationship

To undergo evolutionary change we have to learn to harmonize with each other and not put too much expectation on our partner, that's kind of a lot of pressure to put on another person or think that this all exists in one

In truth people fall in love and eventually love very differently
We may need to disregard and think outside the box in a way, and form our own expectations of what we want out of a relationship
What you can measure is effort, communication, desire, intimacy and acceptance
Key characteristics for a mate would include having integrity, kindness, compassion, optimism, and dedication to really consider their worth as a human being; you treat each other with respect and kindness and accept each other for who you are


Quote for us

“We don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note. Only notes that are different can harmonize. The same is true with people.”  
― Steve Goodier